Kick Out The Anxiety: Let's Network!

By JANYCOIS Building Community – Wealth & Workforce

When it comes to building connections and networking, the first thing you need to let go of is the fear of being liked.

Not everyone will connect with you and that’s okay. What matters more is showing up with confidence and certainty in who you are. The way others perceive you often has more to do with their own mindset than with your true self. So instead of worrying about approval, focus on being the most authentic, smart, charismatic, and kind version of yourself.

Networking doesn’t have to be formal or intimidating. It can start with something as simple as a conversation at a café. Let’s say you see someone you want to talk to, but you're unsure how to start. Try something easy, like:

“Hey, have you ever tried that new latte? I’m thinking about getting it.”

That small comment might feel insignificant, but it’s a spark and sometimes that’s all it takes to open the door to a meaningful interaction.

Here’s a real example from my own life: I was out with a friend who was wearing concert merch, and the barista complimented their shirt. I chimed in and said, “Yeah! We went to that concert and also to the festival in LA,” and started sharing the experience. The barista was genuinely interested and even began playing music from that artist. It turned into a fun, engaging moment where we all smiled and connected just from that one interaction.

I remember that barista not just because of the compliment, but because they were genuine. They shared interest in something I loved, and I did the same in return. That mutual curiosity and kindness created a connection. Now, every time I visit that café, I look forward to seeing them again. We’ve built a rapport that could lead to deeper conversations or even future opportunities.

Yes, networking can feel scary, awkward, or overwhelming. But it doesn’t have to be. Sometimes, all it takes is a small moment of courage, a smile, a compliment, a question. Show someone you’re interested, and they often respond in kind. That’s how conversations begin. That’s how relationships start.

Don’t worry about saying the perfect thing or making a big impression right away. Keep it light, be curious, and let your energy speak. And remember, we grow ourselves not just to succeed, but to build community.

Thanks for reading this, and go connect with someone new today. You never know what doors it might open. 

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